South Mountain Jiu Jitsu December Newsletter

➡︎ UPCOMING EVENTS 

➡︎ SOUTHMOUNTAIN JIU-JITSU 2.0

➡︎ JIU-JITSU JEDI: Wisdom for Your Training Journey

➡︎ JIU-JITSU EXCELLENCE: Student Spotlight Series

➡︎ PARENTING INSIGHTS

Newsletter December 2023

UPCOMING EVENTS:

🥇 Kids Cup and Masters Cup Tournament – Dec 9 🥇

 

🎄 Holiday Season 🎄
  • Academy will be closed Dec 22-25
  • Academy will be closed Dec 29- Jan 1
  • Schedule for Dec 26, 27 & 28 – 3:00p and 3:30p kids classes canceled (Preschool class can join 4:30 classes) – all other classes are scheduled.

SOUTHMOUNTAIN 2.0

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Small Steps...

There were limited updates in November, as we encountered challenges with the City of Phoenix that required us to reassess and redesign our exit door configurations. 

Despite these setbacks, we’ve formulated a comprehensive plan and are currently awaiting final approval. 

We initiated the demolition phase as you can see on the left.

JIU-JITSU JEDI: Wisdom for Your Training Journey

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10 Steps to being a good Partner

Being a good partner in Jiu-Jitsu is crucial for creating a positive training environment and promoting growth for both you and your training partner. Here are some tips for being a good partner while drilling Jiu-Jitsu:

1. Communicate:
– Clearly communicate with your partner before starting the drill. Discuss goals, intensity, and any specific areas you both want to focus on.

2. Maintain Good Hygiene:
– Ensure you have good personal hygiene, as Jiu-Jitsu involves close physical contact. Trim your nails and wash your gi regularly.

3. Respect Your Partner’s Limits:
– Pay attention to your partner’s comfort level and physical condition. Avoid using excessive strength, especially with beginners, and be mindful of any injuries they may have.

4. Control Your Intensity:
– Adjust the intensity of your movements based on your partner’s skill level and experience. Beginners may require a slower pace to understand techniques better.

 

5. Focus on Technique:
– Emphasize proper technique over strength. This not only benefits your partner but also improves your own skills.

6. Be Attentive:
– Pay attention to your partner’s movements and reactions. This helps you provide appropriate resistance and creates a more realistic training scenario.

7. Give Constructive Feedback:
– Offer feedback positively and constructively. Point out what your partner did well and provide suggestions for improvement.

8. Rotate Positions:
– Be willing to switch roles during drilling, allowing both partners to practice offensive and defensive techniques.

9. Tap Responsibly:
– If your partner catches you in a submission, tap promptly and clearly. Respect the tap, and avoid applying excessive force when you have control.

10. Encourage and Support:
– Offer encouragement and support to your partner. Positive reinforcement fosters a better learning environment.

By embodying these principles, you contribute to a supportive and constructive training environment in the Jiu-Jitsu community.

JIU-JITSU EXCELLENCE: Student Spotlight Series

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JESS GUTIERREZ

Can you talk about your motivation to start training jiu-jitsu? I have always enjoyed playing competitive sports and had an interest in learning jiu-jitsu. I showed up without knowing what to expect. As soon as the first class ended, I knew I wanted to join. Of course, I didn’t have a clue on what I was doing, but coaches Sara and Nigel made me feel very welcome and motivated me to keep coming back. The health benefits are a huge plus.

Your wife and three kids also train at South Mountain. What has that experience been like? Having my wife and three kids join SMBJJ has been a lot of fun! We enjoy watching the kids improve every day and knowing that they are excited to keep coming back. The best part is that we get to spend time together, doing something we all enjoy.

How do you feel Jiu-Jitsu has improved your lives as a family? Everything we do is to improve our lives as a family and training has really brought another level of family involvement in our lives. The extra conversation and engagement with the kids is priceless. The positivity and confidence it brings my children drives us to keep bringing them. We have become part of a growing group of people who share the same interests and sense of community. We look forward to all the great things that will result from this.

What is your favorite thing about training at South Mountain? Our favorite part of training at South Mountain is the comradery. Everyone is there to learn and have a good time. The sport challenges you to improve your strength and skill level. The coaches are all great at pushing us and providing positive reinforcement. By the end of training, everyone is eager to shake your hand and thank you for challenging them. We have an awesome group of people.

PARENTING INSIGHTS

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Should I take away Jiu Jitsu if my child doesn’t get good grades?

Let’s unpack this…

What’s really happening when we take away what our child loves as punishment to get them to do the things they don’t love…

How do you stop a punishment from being a punishment?  You either stop doing (or start doing) the thing that is getting you punished or you stop caring about the thing that has been taken away.  Why do punishments tend to escalate until everything has been taken away?!  As a parenting coach, eventually I hear “I have taken away everything, nothing works!”  Correct, punishments don’t work well as a long term solution and short term solutions do not necessarily get you to your long term goals.  Relationship building, problems solving, conflict resolution skills, and building executive functioning skills are the long term solutions.

Our first mistake as parents is confusing a punishment with a “consequence.”

Let’s define them:

 

Natural consequence – is a product of the behavior itself and doesn’t require parents to point out the consequence in an attempt to shame them (in fact it will backfire when parents do because humans don’t like to be wrong so it can result in the digging in of the heals by the child as a way to cope and avoid feeling the shame).

Example:  Child refuses to put on a jacket and spends the day cold.

Logical consequence – makes sense based on the behavior and the child can draw a direct line so that the consequences doesn’t feel vindictive rather it makes sense even if the child doesn’t like it.

Example: Child won’t get ready for bed so the routine of reading and songs is shortened to just the song.

Punishments – have no connection to the behavior we’re wanting to change and are intended to make a child suffer in order to control their behavior.  They require an escalation is severity to maintain control often result in the parent believing “nothing works!”  This will also diminish the desire for positive things in their life that are taken away in order to get back some of the lost control by the parent.  At the sub conscious level what happens is “If I don’t love xyz (i.e. Jiu Jitsu) then you have one less tool to control me with. I will stop caring about anything”

Example: No screen time tomorrow because your child “talked back” to you.

 

Remember: “We are not preparing our child for life. THIS IS LIFE and we are living it along side each other”

Facing tasks you’d rather avoid is something everyone deals with, not just kids. It’s a challenge that sticks around as we grow up, so it’s important to give kids skills they can use when we’re not there to punish them into doing things.

Instead of taking away stuff they love to make them do things they don’t like, let’s focus on giving them tools and skills that last a lifetime.

Getting rid of activities, especially the ones that make them happy, just to control their behavior doesn’t help us reach our big goal. Our goal is to help them do things they might not want to do.

When you opt for punishment over building skills, you’re entering a competition where the parent-child relationship ends up losing. As time goes on, you might find yourself having to take away more from your child, and the impact of punishments lessens. Punishments don’t naturally encourage cooperation, as true cooperation can’t be forced. While it might lead to short-term compliance, it often results in ongoing struggles during the teenage years. When we consistently punish our kids, they become increasingly distant from us, losing access to the things that once brought them joy and satisfaction in life.

Think of finding solutions as a teamwork adventure. Some fixes might only work for a little while, and others might stick around for a long time. Don’t give up, even if you have to go back to the drawing board again and again—because that’s just how life is.

If cutting back on activities is part of the plan, make sure it makes sense to your child and isn’t just a punishment.

 

Strategies for supporting your child’s academic success:

Utilize tools like checklists, timers, and schedulers.

Implement regular check-ins and utilize trackers for homework, tests, quizzes, papers, and projects.

Foster communication with teachers for ongoing support.

If over-scheduled, consider practical adjustments rather than punitive measures.

Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them.

Bill Ayers

© Copyright 2023 South Mountain Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

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